About the space
LoveNOX is a multidisciplinary bar-space that approaches sexuality from cultural and educational perspectives. It is known for being a place where its library and art exhibitions shape the intellectual side of the house. Its rooms, filled with sofas, are designed to encourage exchanges—like being in a living room and discussing sensitive topics such as prevention, harassment, and healthy practices of communication and agreements. Located in Sé, it is a place of debate that also offers room for breathing, care, and listening. A century-old manor that was restored and is today home to topics that are sometimes seen as contradictory or even censored, such as fetishes, abortion, gender identity, fatphobia, transphobia, and stigmas against neurodivergent and HIV-positive bodies. All of this culture is expressed through art and dialogue; it is at this intersection that LoveNOX was born.
The manor, which preserves its original layout, is divided into spaces furnished with second-hand finds and decorated with works donated or sponsored by partner artists and regular friends of the space.
The space is divided as follows:
- Entrance: Old black door with an external gate. Inside there is a flight of stairs with black steps and artworks on the walls. After the stairs, frames with our Code of Conduct, a notice restricting image capture, and compliance documents fill the walls.
- Basement: The basement is at street level, accessed beside the entrance door. It is a space still under development and features sofas, armchairs, cushions, rugs, a TV installed on the wall with its own system, artworks and frames, and a genuflexory next to our Suzário—a tribute to important people who helped build with us a safe and healthy network of positive sexuality and who are no longer with us.
- Art Corridor: The entrance corridor is composed of permanent and rotating works and hosts temporary art exhibitions. A long corridor with a red carpet, a console with a mirror, walls full of original works and some interactive pieces.
- Aftercare Room: A room with vintage furniture, including a dressing table, chest of drawers, wardrobe, sofa, cushions, a manequin, rug and works that evoke performance artists, along with a shelf of books on fashion, burlesque, lingerie and sexuality that relate to the theme. There is also a private changing area. The chest and wardrobe are stocked with costumes, lingerie, props, accessories and makeup provided by partner artists and may be used (upon request) by the public.
- Safeword Room: A room for practices and a more intimate environment. Equipped with an X, armchairs, a trunk with fetish and BDSM items that can be used by the public (upon request), a floor lamp and a chandelier with red bulbs, a set of giant dice for erotic play, and a shelf with books from the kink universe.
- Performance Hall: The main space where performances, scenes and general practices take place, equipped with sofas, armchairs, side tables, rugs, lamps and a chandelier with warm bulbs; a high beam with an attachment point for aerial practices and shibari; a suspension cage for bondage; shelves with books on positive sexuality, gender, erotic art, comics, the history of sexuality and books by partner artists; magazines and zines; original artworks; and a screen with a projector.
- Box Office: At the box office, sales are made through tokens that must be taken to the bar to collect the order. The box office also handles cloakroom, convenience items, artworks and posters and/or informational materials. It also features a collection of novelty dildos.
- Bar: Our bar offers a menu of classic cocktail drinks, soft beverages and bottles of wine, as well as occasional drinks and beverages according to each event theme. A glass cabinet serves as a display and shop, with partner items such as candles, books, ropes, stickers and other rotating items. The space also features artworks on display.
- Restroom: With two stalls, the restroom is equipped with internal and external condoms, lubricant gel, disposable hygienic shower, sanitary pads and wet wipes, and of course toilet paper and interleaved paper at the sink. A vintage iron bathtub completes the decor alongside a collage artwork and original stickers inside the stalls.
With its modular format the house adapts to each event. The ambient sound is fixed for periodic events and can turn the room into a dance floor with DJs for special events. The large windows that ornament the rooms are closed at 1:00 AM, in accordance with local noise regulations.
The house team is trained and ready to provide support in any situation that may occur; do not hesitate to approach a staff member if you need assistance.
LoveNOX Code of Conduct – Institutional Protocol
Updated September 2, 2023 (Kinky Spring)
LoveNOX is a space dedicated to culture, positive sexuality, erotic art, freedom, promotion of sexual education and the lived experience of sexuality, fantasies, fetishes and BDSM.
Interpersonal encounters and exchanges within LoveNOX must necessarily observe the principles of consensuality, risk awareness, safety, physical and emotional care, empathy and discretion.
As an institution, LoveNOX is in constant evolution, shaped by the contributions of its staff and visitors.
Our mission is the maintenance of a free, safe and welcoming environment.
To continue pursuing our goal, we have drawn up this conduct and institutional protocol, which must be known and followed by all visitors and staff of LoveNOX.
Combating All Forms of Discrimination and Prejudice
- We do not tolerate any form of discrimination and/or prejudice based on ethnicity, race, gender, sexual orientation, culture, religion or absence of religion, social origin, educational background, body diversity, disability, illness or neurodivergence.
- We do not accept LGBTQIAPN+phobia, sexism, racism, harassment, sexual, moral or physical molestation, psychophobia or xenophobia.
- LoveNOX is a free environment, welcoming reflection, criticism and the exchange of ideas; however, ideologies that propagate hatred, violence, differentiation, oppression of minority and identity groups, extermination, segregation, prejudice and exploitation are not tolerated.
- We do not tolerate slut-shaming, kink-shaming, body-shaming or the imposition of normative behavioural standards.
- All fetishes must be respected, except those that potentially constitute crimes, such as, but not limited to: zoophilia, paedophilia and necrophilia.
Discretion, Confidentiality and Privacy
- LoveNOX values discretion and promotes confidentiality among its staff and visitors regarding the practices and interactions that take place on the premises of LoveNOX and on its online server (Discord).
- Public exposure of visitors, staff, practices and interactions that occur at LoveNOX is not permitted.
- Taking photographs or making any audiovisual recording on LoveNOX premises is prohibited, unless with prior and express authorisation from all persons recorded.
- Any photo or video must be taken in a way that preserves the anonymity of persons who may be in the house or in the vicinity of the photo/recording.
Institutional Position on Consent, Harassment, Conflict and Violence
- We reiterate: interpersonal interactions within LoveNOX must necessarily be guided by consensuality, safety and awareness of the circumstances and risks inherent in the interactions and forms of sexual expression.
- We do not tolerate any non-consensual interaction.
- Every interaction within LoveNOX must be constituted on the basis of the express and unequivocal consent of the persons involved.
- Every physical, sexual and/or fetish interaction within LoveNOX must be negotiated and include a safe word, which serves to indicate the presence, continuation or withdrawal of consent.
- The provision of the preceding paragraph also applies to 'consensual non-consent' (CNC) type interactions.
- Safe words must be negotiated beforehand, and signal that the practice: (i) must stop immediately and completely.
- Other safe words may also be negotiated to indicate that the practice: (ii) may continue or (iii) should decrease in intensity.
- The use, by any of the persons involved in a given practice, of a safe word of type (i) – indicating that the practice must stop immediately and completely – signals that the practice must stop immediately. This signal must be respected.
- The continuation of any practice after the use of a safe word of type (i) – indicating that the practice must stop immediately and completely – constitutes a non-consensual interaction and may result in institutional and/or legal liability.
- In the case of a practice that involves difficulty in speaking, such as gags and masks, the safe word must be replaced by a 'safe sign or gesture' and/or the use of sound instruments, such as bells and chimes.
- The person applying the practice (top) has the responsibility to monitor the well-being of the person receiving the practice (bottom), always observing whether this person (bottom) is in a condition to speak or signal the safe word, sign or gesture, and whether they are conscious and able to express their consent at all times.
- Both persons involved in the practice, whether the one applying it (top) or the one receiving it (bottom), have a duty to inform themselves about the risks involved and to assertively communicate their limits and expectations.
- Any conflict, fight, harassment or violence – including sexual or gender-based – will result in the expulsion of those involved from the event, except for the support provided to persons affected by violence and/or discrimination.
- Following the expulsion referred to in the preceding paragraph, LoveNOX will deliberate on a possible ban (temporary or permanent) of the parties involved.
- The carrying of firearms on LoveNOX premises is prohibited.
- Persons under the age of 18 (eighteen) are not permitted entry.
- These provisions apply, where applicable, to the virtual space of LoveNOX – the 'Discord' server.
Reporting Channel and Institutional Position on Non-Consensual Interactions and Harassment
- In the event of non-consensual interactions, harassment, or any other form of prohibited behaviour, the offended party should seek out one of the LoveNOX staff members.
- Staff members are instructed in the provisions of this protocol and in the institutional and legal consequences of any conflict situations that may arise in the house.
- Upon receiving a complaint of conflict, harassment or non-consensual behaviour, the responsible staff member will act to attend to the affected person, providing care, safety and reassurance.
- The person affected by non-consensual interactions, harassment or any other form of prohibited behaviour may request an institutional position on the case, in which case LoveNOX will deliberate on the matter and communicate its institutional position after hearing all parties involved.
- If the conflict occurs in the virtual space of the LoveNOX 'Discord' server, the interested and/or offended party should open a 'Ticket', through which LoveNOX will issue its position on the case.